WHY AM I BEING TREATED LIKE CRAP?

Have you ever been in a relationship with an “it’s all about me, and only about me”  type of person?  My family has been at the mercy of such a person, someone who constantly treats us like crap, for no legitimate reason.

This relationship is DAMAGING to me and my family.  We are always  guessing what kind of moment we are going to get with this person.  I can assure you, there is never a dull moment.  We ask ourselves ” have we always been treated this way?”  No, the answer is, no, we weren’t always treated like crap!  But things have changed.  This person has done an about face with our family, for no apparent reason.    We are really confused.  And we are incredibly hurt, disappointed, and sad because unfortunately,  this toxic behavior is so emotionally abusive, filled with negative criticism and so much hate, that it appears that this rude person is using this behavior to try to bring us all down.  This is emotional abuse!

 

We need a REALITY CHECK!  We didn’t make this person change-because the only way you can make someone do something they don’t want is if you hold a gun to their head!  We don’t have the power to make someone do what they don’t want!  So, the only explanation is that the person who is treating us like crap is CHOOSING to do so!  And what is worse?  We are all allowing and enabling them to do it!  

The truth is, and this is really harsh, people can only treat you in  the way that you’ll allow them to treat you. So if you are resigned that the person can continue to treat you like shit, and you allow it, what you are really telling them is “thank you for treating me like shit, this is how I want to be treated, more please!”  If you put up with bad treatment, you are saying you are only worthy of unacceptable behavior!  And, don’t even think about forgiving that person, because each time you do, you are reinforcing their bad behavior.

It’s easy for a hypocrite to point out the flaws and shortcomings of someone else.  Unfortunately, they fail to see their own.  They are too quick to point out anything you do wrong-but they fail to see anything in themselves that is wrong.

They are often insecure and just put on the facade of superiority.   

The last time I exploded and attempted to fight back, of course I was the mean one.  I was the one who had to apologize!  So, if someone is going to criticize and put down others, they had better be 100%willing to listen and allow the person they are criticizing to say what they want about them too!The real problems begins when someone does things to others they wouldn’t want done to themselves!  It’s HYPOCRISY!  And, if they don’t like negative attacks on them or their family, then  they better not do it to someone else and their family.  They have to learn to keep their negativity to themselves.We do not owe the rude person who puts us down ANYTHING!  They can complain and criticize us all they want, but they should know this…. it is never going to make us change into who they think we should be.  It is not our job to make them happy, or to bow down to their every little whimper or complaint.

If they can’t accept us the way we are, then  they are the ones that must leave!

And they better make sure that they are PERFECT themselves before dumping their superiority complex and self-righteous ego on anyone else.

When someone is mean, don’t listen.  It is NEVER O.K. to use a criticism in a negative way!

When someone is rude, walk away.  (Rude people who put you down and criticize others fail to see how pathetic they themselves are!

When someone tries to put you down, stay firm.  Don’t let someone’s bad behavior destroy your inner peace.

If someone can’t say something nice, they shouldn’t say anything!

If they can’t talk to people respectfully, they should not talk to them at all.

If they need to be patronizing and condescending in any way, they should go elsewhere.

These are my standards.  If someone can’t handle it, then they must find someone else who will tolerate their immature and rude behaviors.  And Good Riddance.

Last, I have learned the hard way that some people are terrible human beings.  Terrible people do terrible things.  If you are racking your brain to try to understand this, it just means that you are not one of these terrible people. My advice to you is, never be the  victim of someone’s cruel and hurtful words.  Just because they cannot control their tongue and control their own behavior, remember that it is never your fault when people are rude, cruel, abusive or disrespectful.

Some people will only like you if you fit inside their “box”.  Don’t be afraid to shove that “box” up their ass!  Let us know in the comments below what your feelings are when a poisonous person treats you or / and your family like CRAP!

You are Awesome!

xoxoxoxoxo

Sookie